Human Development

Find out opportunities that lie in the place of regrets

Hello Dear Esteemed Reader,
Woke up one day, hitting my head, dropping tears, saying, “But zoona life why?!!!” especially after a certain mess I found myself in. During that moment it was difficult for me to wake up because I felt I had wronged the whole wolrd and it no longer needed me. Called someone to go and help me with my tasks but again felt like I would inconvenience her schedule so I just woke up and worked and it was just amazing.

It was during that season that I learnt that regrets are like grapes crushed in a jar. Now, you feel sad about it. But, after enough healing, after enough time, like the grapes transform into wine, your regrets will turn into memories that you will cherish in your life.
There are times I feel I haven’t done much and nothing better can even be done anymore by me 🤔😭. Despite all that I have learnt how to allow myself to heal and start over though the process is painful the reward is worth taking the process.
Thus, today allow me to guide you with how you can make the most out of regrets. Let me say here that, you are only allowed to give room to regrets when you know and actualize what is right to do.
Now let’s dive into what makes people regret first before we find out how we can make the most out of regrets.

Few Things that Make People Regret
Failure to achieve the set goals.
Failure to find out what right can be done.
Comparing yourself with other people’s success.
Failure to accept you can start over again and that there is always a second chance..
being less assertive
breaking up, carelessly choosing one’s life partner
Let me say here that This is the most crucial part where most people regret too much
comparing oneself with others
dreaming more than acting on things
Lingering around the wrong people
I have personally lost good morals at some point. Let me say that including resources by just being around the wrong people.
Losing sleep over other people’s thoughts about oneself
Making poor life decisions
Lacking the courage to express feelings
Neglecting oneself
Taking life too seriously
Take it low, pretend nothing bad happened and continue the journey.
Thinking others are better
Wasting time over little things
Worrying too much

IMPORTANCE OF REGRETS
1. Regrets help us to make sense of the past experiences.
By that I mean regrets remind us about the wrong decisions we made and not to make the same mistakes again.
2. It brings out the best version of us/ reveals our real identity
Though it is not the same for everyone. But I feel it’s during times of regret that I come to realize what I was born to do.
3. Regrets help in planning wisely for the future.
When people mess up and start regretting they act harshly and make bad moves costing them much in life. The wise don’t just feel pain about the cost rather they use it to purchase the future they want to see. At this point let me say, “always take regrets as a currency you can use to purchase a meaningful future




How to Make the most out of Regrets
1. Accept what happened
You can’t undo the past mistakes but you can only accept that it happened.
2. Allow yourself to feel the feeling of regret without avoiding and wallowing in it. Don’t just judge yourself negatively. Because
Know what right can be done next time.
Like I previously mentioned, see regrets as a currency you can use to purchase the future. Find out what best can be done, in fact people who have failed in life turn out to be the most effective people in society because they have known the right way of doing things.
Fuel your future with wise decisions by knowing the best that can be done rather than swimming in the pool of regrets.
3. Make amendments
What makes me most of the times regretful and not heal fast is when I had to hurt other people’s feelings. That might be the same with you, in case you have hurt others, find time to change things and make peace with those people. You can make changes rather than the regrets to change you.
4. Learn to forgive yourself
Take a step away from your harsh inner critic and remember that one regretted act or choice needn’t define who you are.
5. Have a trusted Person you can share with
By that I mean someone who has more experience than you do. Before approaching that person make sure you have described what you are regretting about yourself. Thereafter, go ahead and share it with that person. Always know that what you are having challenges with, someone else has a solution to it.
6. Understand that the fact that you regret means you have what you value but you didn’t just do it. Thus, find ways of how you can live with it in the future. Because when you regret more you will understand what really matters to you. Then go ahead and take those steps.
In Conclusion, regrets are like grapes crushed in a jar. Now, you feel sad about it. But, after enough healing, after enough time, like the grapes transform into wine, your regrets will turn into memories that you will cherish in your life.