Human Development

Hello esteemed reader,

I believe at some point you have seen two people who started doing some things together and one succeeded and the other failed. Have you ever asked yourself what the reason for the difference could be? Hold on a bit and let us reason together🤔.

I will start my blog by saying, “We all wish and plan to succeed in life, business, our careers, etc. The surprising part is some fail and others make it”. Well I want to touch one reason among others that causes that. That is, some see opportunities to make it again while in the midst of failures on the other hand some see failures as their end.

Secondly, let me also say that most of the time when we plan our journey of making it to the top we forget to plan on how to solve challenges that come with success because challenges are a must. It’s during the times of failure that some quit the journey while others overcome the challenges and win in life. Tonmoy Acharjee once said, “Embracing each challenge can turn it into a privilege.” Therefore, I will be writing on embracing profitable failures in order to create a room to succeed. Before that let me first talk about how people are trapped in failure and remain as failures.

Some people see challenges and failure as “stop flags”. These are the people who take failure as their end of journey. Mainly, when people fail few things happen to them which even makes many not to continue going, thereby, making them not to make it. Here are a few:

1. The hope for the better future turns to be so dim, people become hopeless

It once happened to me when I started making small small progress and then I failed. I couldn’t see the possibility of rising again because all I had around me were a batch of problems and didn’t have a right network of people to tell me I can still make it. Until someone I met in business told me that if you can’t accept failure then you aren’t fit for this journey.

2. A feeling of having no one to help.

Mainly, when failure takes place people who seemed to be of help don’t come close rather they run away. But trust me help comes from above.

3. Lack of supportive relationships
4. Start comparing yourself with others who seem to be making it better than you.

This affects negatively and that’s where people lose focus and follow the path they don’t belong to, thereby failing completely. Following the path of others makes one a failure.

5. Negative confessions

Life is shaped by the things we speak. During times of failure people complain a lot, blame others for their failures and keep on talking about impossible things. The more they do that the more things get rough. I advise you to stop blaming others and start engaging yourself in the things you want to get good results.

6. Negative thoughts 

What runs in the mind of someone who has failed is unrealistic expectations and they end up becoming failures. Because as a man thinks in his heart so he will be. Thus, I personally advise that during failure watch your thoughts carefully and think about the way out.

7. A sense of embarrassment and shame.

People who were once at the top when they fall are easily noticed. That makes such people develop low esteem and feel inferior to go out and work because they feel everyone knows they have failed and by allowing that to rule them they end up failures. During the time of failure mind your own business and do what will make you proud of yourself when you rise up again.

THE GOOD NEWS!!!

Every failure you will ever encounter in the journey of life will provide you with a batch of opportunities for growth and to learn new things while learning from the mistakes you made.

Here are some things you need to do in order to turn your failures into privileges:

1. Understand why you have failed

The best way to solve any problem is knowing the source and purpose of it, so is every failure. Understand that every failure has something good attached to it. Always see the end of a matter to be good.

2. See Times of Failure as Times to Develop Yourself

Most of the times when I’m passing through failures I do have enough time to sit down alone. Because, during those moments, destruction from friends is less as well as pressure from work. I prefer using those times to learn new skills without disturbances, instead of complaining about who has left me.

Most of the skills I have now, I learnt them during my down moments and I’m getting paid currently from the same skills. Think of men like David who learned the skill of killing giants while in the desert (isolated place). Joseph developed a skill of interpreting dreams while in a prison and the same gift took him to the palace. You can learn in your desert too and stand before kings. This is my strongest point in this blog.

3. Be kind to yourself and accept that failure is inevitable 

Accept that failure happens to everyone. Then don’t allow it to put you on the ground forever. The only thing you must accept is that it’s normal to fail thereafter, make corrections and do the best you would have done next time. Leading me to the next point.

4. Notice what you could have done better and what you can do better next time.

Don’t just dwell in the pool of failure for a long time. Rather allow yourself to discover better ways of getting the results you want in your field. You can discover better ways after a downfall than you can when you refuse to take risks. My advice is to take risks and discover better ways of doing things.

5. Make potential relationships

Mostly, during failure you stop trusting people but it’s also important to know that potential connections come when things are down. It was during my down  moments when I discovered people with great giftings that can take me to higher places. Let me say the right ones. The people we meet in failure most of the time have the capacity to introduce us to great places. Just like Joseph in the bible got introduced to the king. My advice is that in failure don’t stop doing what you feel is right for you.

In Conclusion, failure puts us in a place of Isolation, some fail there and others learn new things that take them to places where there are able/great men. Just like it happened to Joseph. Always be good to yourself and develop your craft during your times of failures, by so doing you will turn your failures into privilege.

Lastly, I’m so glad you took time to read through this blog and thank you for reasoning with me. If you have suggestions feel free to get in touch.